Relationship checks, grounded in psychological research
Free attachment style quiz, love language test and couples compatibility checks
Five checks, built on published attachment, conflict and compatibility research. Three you can take on your own in a few minutes, free. Two you take with your partner, each answering separately, for one joint report.
- Free to start
- Private from each other
- About 10 minutes each
Start with your concern
Pick the sentence closest to what is on your mind. Each one goes straight to the check that answers it.
What you get
You each answer alone
44 questions on your own phone. Your partner never sees what you said.
One report, both sides
Your scores next to theirs, so you can finally see the same picture at the same time.
One conversation to have
Your widest gaps, what they mean, and one talk to have this week without it turning into the usual fight.
Built on published psychology
These are assessments, not personality quizzes
Attachment research
The attachment items follow the anxiety and avoidance structure used in adult attachment research, from Bowlby and Ainsworth through Hazan and Shaver's work on adult romantic bonds.
Conflict and repair
The conflict scoring draws on Gottman's observational work on criticism, defensiveness, withdrawal and repair attempts as the strongest markers of how a couple handles disagreement.
Love languages
The five channels come from Chapman's framework, scored so you see your lowest channel as well as your highest, which is where most mismatches sit.
Expectations, not vibes
The two-sided tests score money, family involvement, children, faith, location, roles and career separately, because untested expectations, not chemistry, are what couples usually collide over.
Educational assessments reviewed by Komel Kaur, M.A. Psychology, CBT- and DBT-trained. They describe patterns and expectations. They do not diagnose any condition.
How it works
- Step 1
You answer, on your own
44 questions, about 10 minutes. No one is watching over your shoulder, and that's the point.
- Step 2
They get their own private link
Emailed straight to them, or you send it yourself. They answer separately, with no sight of your answers.
- Step 3
Pay only when both sides are in
Once both of you have answered, USD 49 unlocks the full joint report. Nothing upfront, and nothing lost if one side doesn't finish.
Which one is for me?
Couples Relationship Test
If this sounds like you
- We're together - dating, living together, engaged or married
- We keep having the same argument and it never lands anywhere
- Things are fine, but I want to check in before they aren't
Marriage Compatibility Test
If this sounds like you
- We're deciding whether to marry
- We were introduced through family and barely know each other yet
- We've never actually talked about money, or where we'd live
What the 44 questions cover
Attachment items are drawn from the ECR-R tradition; the rest are modelled on established relationship-satisfaction and conflict research. Two attachment subscales, plus five scored dimensions:
Communication and repair
Whether hard things get said, heard, and put back together afterwards.
Trust and security
Reliability, transparency, and the absence of quiet suspicion.
Closeness and affection
Emotional and physical warmth, and how freely it is offered.
Conflict handling
What each of you does when the temperature rises.
Shared direction
Money, family, children, faith, place, roles and career - the practical life you are agreeing to.
Attachment pairing
Anxiety and avoidance for each of you, and the part that matters most: what the combination of the two of you tends to produce in a hard moment.
Will my partner see my answers?
No. Neither of you ever sees the other's raw answers. Nothing is posted, nothing is shared, and there is no public profile. If you ever want to show a summary to someone, that's an optional link you both have to switch on, and either of you can revoke it.
What they do see
- Both sets of scores, side by side
- The gaps between you, and what they mean
- The same readings and next steps you get
What they never see
- Your answer to any single question
- A transcript of what you said about them
- Anything you typed that you later changed
Questions couples ask
Which relationship test should I take?
If you want to understand yourself first, take the free attachment style quiz, love language test or relationship doubt check on your own - each is scored the second you finish. If you want to see both sides compared, take one of the two-sided tests: the Couples Relationship Test if you are already together, or the Marriage Compatibility Test if you are deciding whether to marry.
Are these tests scientifically valid?
They are educational assessments built on published psychology: the anxiety and avoidance structure used in adult attachment research, Gottman's work on conflict and repair, and Chapman's five love languages. They describe patterns and expectations rather than diagnosing anything, and they are reviewed by Komel Kaur, M.A. Psychology, CBT- and DBT-trained.
Does my partner see my answers?
No. Each of you answers privately. The joint report shows scores, gaps and readings for both sides - never the raw answers either of you gave.
Do we have to pay before we answer?
No. You answer first, then your partner answers, and USD 49 is only due once both sides are in. If one side never answers, you pay nothing.
Do we both have to pay?
No. One payment of USD 49 covers both partners and the joint report.
How long does each test take?
About 10 minutes each. There are 44 statements, answered on a five-point agree-to-disagree scale.
This assessment is educational. It is not a diagnosis, not couples therapy, and not suitable as a safety assessment. If there is violence, coercion or fear in the relationship, please contact local support services rather than starting here.