For two people · both partners answer

Relationship and compatibility tests for couples

A two-sided couples test is one both people take separately before comparing results. Komel Kaur Psychology offers two: the Relationship Check-in for couples already together, and the Compatibility Check for couples deciding whether to marry. Each is 44 questions, about 10 minutes per person, and produces one joint report. Start free; USD 49 is only due once both of you have answered.

Choose your test

Relationship Check-in

See your relationship from both sides at once

For: Dating, living together, engaged or married

  • How each of you attaches - and what the pairing does under stress
  • Five dimensions scored side by side, with the gap between you
  • Your three widest gaps and one structured conversation for this week
USD 49 · 44 questions eachRelationship check-in

Compatibility Check

Find out what you're actually agreeing to, before you marry

For: Deciding whether to marry, including arranged-marriage introductions

  • Expectations on money, family, children, faith, location, roles and career
  • Each area marked aligned, negotiable or in conflict
  • A readiness paragraph you can act on - including if it's 'not yet'
USD 49 · 44 questions eachCompatibility check

Not ready to involve your partner?

Start with the free relationship self-check

Fifteen questions, three minutes, answered by you alone - satisfaction, doubt, repair after conflict, respect and loneliness, scored instantly.

Take the free check

Not sure which one to take?

Both are the same length, the same price (USD 49 · ≈ AED 180 · ≈ £39 for the pair) and produce a joint report. They differ in what the questions and the report emphasise.

Your situation
Relationship check-inAlready together - dating, living together, engaged or married
Compatibility checkDeciding whether to marry, or newly introduced through family
What the report leans on
Relationship check-inPatterns you already have: conflict cycles, closeness, trust, repair
Compatibility checkExpectations you haven't tested yet: money, family, children, faith, roles
Typically bought by
Relationship check-inCouples stuck in the same argument, or wanting a check-in before it gets worse
Compatibility checkPre-marital couples, arranged-match introductions, and their families
Next step it points to
Relationship check-inA first joint couples session, with the pattern already named
Compatibility checkTwo or three structured pre-marital sessions on the flagged areas

How it works

  1. Step 1

    You answer, on your own

    44 questions, about 10 minutes. No one is watching over your shoulder - that's the point.

  2. Step 2

    The other person gets a private link

    Emailed straight to them, or you send it yourself. They answer separately, with no sight of your answers.

  3. Step 3

    Pay only when both sides are in

    Once both of you have answered, USD 49 unlocks the full joint report. No upfront payment, no lost money if one side doesn't finish.

What the 44 questions cover

Attachment items are drawn from the ECR-R tradition; the rest are modelled on established relationship-satisfaction and conflict research. Two attachment subscales, plus five scored dimensions:

Communication and repair

Whether hard things get said, heard, and put back together afterwards.

Trust and security

Reliability, transparency, and the absence of quiet suspicion.

Closeness and affection

Emotional and physical warmth, and how freely it is offered.

Conflict handling

What each of you does when the temperature rises.

Shared direction

Money, family, children, faith, place, roles and career - the practical life you are agreeing to.

Attachment pairing

Anxiety and avoidance for each of you, and - the part that matters - what the combination of the two of you tends to produce in a hard moment.

Your answers stay yours

Neither of you ever sees the other's raw answers. The report shows scores, gaps and readings - never a transcript of what your partner said about you. Nothing is posted, nothing is shared, and there is no public profile. If you ever want to show a summary to someone, that's an optional link you both have to switch on, and either of you can revoke it.

Questions couples ask

Which couples test should we take?

Take the Relationship Check-in if you are already together - dating, living together, engaged or married - and want to understand the pattern between you. Take the Compatibility Check if you are deciding whether to marry, including an arranged-marriage introduction, where untested expectations about money, family, children, faith, location and roles matter most.

Does my partner see my answers?

No. Each of you answers privately. The joint report shows scores, gaps and readings for both sides - never the raw answers either of you gave.

Do we have to pay before we answer?

No. You answer first, then your partner answers, and USD 49 is only due once both sides are in. If one side never answers, you pay nothing.

Do we both have to pay?

No. One payment of USD 49 covers both partners and the joint report.

How long does each test take?

About 10 minutes each. There are 44 statements, answered on a five-point agree-to-disagree scale.

Is this couples therapy?

No. It is an educational assessment that gives a couples or pre-marital session a running start, and the report carries a USD 15 credit toward a first joint session.

Looking for something for yourself?

Free individual self-tests

Fifteen clinician-validated screeners for anxiety, mood, focus, trauma, sleep and more - free, private, a few minutes each.

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This assessment is educational. It is not a diagnosis, not couples therapy, and not suitable as a safety assessment. If there is violence, coercion or fear in the relationship, please contact local support services rather than starting here.