What we work on · Second-gen identity
Therapy for second-generation identity and belonging
You translate constantly: language, tone, humour, expectations. At home you are too Western, outside you are the Indian one, and there is rarely a room where all of you fits.
That constant code-switching is tiring in a way that is hard to explain to either side, and it often shows up as anxiety, anger, or a flat sense of not being fully real anywhere.
Komel Kaur
Psychotherapist + Executive Coach
M.A. Psychology
CBT and DBT trained psychotherapist
5 languages
English, Hindi, Punjabi, Urdu, Kashmiri
60-minute sessions
Online video, times shown on your own clock
No payment to request
Ask for a time first, pay once it is confirmed
Reviewed by Komel Kaur, psychotherapist and executive coach, M.A. Psychology
Last reviewed 20 August 2026
What this often looks like
- ·Feeling like a different person at home and outside
- ·Guilt about your parents' sacrifices
- ·Resentment you feel bad about having
- ·Being the family translator, mediator, or fixer since childhood
- ·Difficulty with anger or with saying no
- ·Not knowing which parts of yourself are actually yours
What we actually do in sessions
- ·We look at what you inherited, including the things nobody named.
- ·We work on anger and guilt as information rather than problems.
- ·We build a version of your identity you choose rather than negotiate.
- ·We address the caretaker role you may have held since you were a child.
- ·We work on relationships where you can stop performing.
Format
Online video
Private and confidential
Sessions in
English, Hindi, Punjabi, Urdu
Where clients are
Gulf, UK, Europe, North America, Australia, India
Want a starting point before you talk to anyone?
Common questions
Is this the same as generic identity work?
No. Migration, honour, duty, and intergenerational sacrifice change the shape of it, and that context is assumed here rather than explained.
I love my parents. Does that make this invalid?
Not at all. Most of this work happens with people who love their families and still need somewhere to put the weight.
Do you work with young adults and teenagers?
Yes. Komel works with teenagers, young adults, and parents, including sessions arranged by a parent for a child.
Ready when you are
Pick a session and a time in your own timezone, then send the request. Nothing is paid until Komel confirms.
Other things people bring here
Online therapy by country
How it works
Three steps, about five minutes.
No waiting list, no phone tag, no chasing a reply. You can have a time requested before you close this page, and nothing is paid until it is confirmed.
01
Pick a session and a time
Choose the session you want and a slot that suits you. Times are shown on your own clock, and evening slots are open.
02
Request it, no payment yet
Leave a few details and send the request. The slot is held for you while Komel confirms she is the right fit.
03
Confirm and get your Meet link
Komel sends a payment link for that session. Once it is paid, the Google Meet link lands in your inbox.
Sessions and pricing
Pick the session that fits, then a time.
Intro consultation
30 minutes
USD 35
One-off, no commitment
A short first conversation to see if we're a fit.
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Full session
60 minutes
USD 70USD 49
New client offerOne-off, no commitment
A complete therapy hour, one to one.
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Most chosen5-session plan
60 minutes
USD 49per session
Save 30% per sessionNothing upfront, pay one session at a time
Five hours of real work at the lower rate the whole way through.
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Couples session
60 minutes, for two
USD 120USD 99
New client offerOne-off, no commitment
One hour with both partners on the same video call.
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From the practice
What Komel writes about, week to week.
When this is not the right fit
Komel is a psychotherapist and executive coach based in the UAE, working online worldwide. Sessions are private and self-funded, and cannot be claimed on local insurance or used for legal, medical or workplace reports. She does not prescribe or manage medication.
This is not an emergency service. If you are in immediate danger, use a local crisis line rather than a booking request. Her credentials and training and the full scope of practice are published.