Find out what you're actually agreeing to, before you marry
Both of you answer 44 questions separately. One joint report marks money, family, children, faith, location and roles as aligned, negotiable or in conflict.
- Free to start
- Private from each other
- About 10 minutes each
Nothing to pay now. You answer, they answer, then the report unlocks.
A compatibility test for marriage is one both people take separately before comparing answers. This one is 44 questions, about 10 minutes each, and covers attachment, conflict style, trust, closeness and practical expectations - money, family involvement, children, faith, where you live, roles at home and careers. One joint report marks each area aligned, negotiable or in conflict. Start free; USD 49 is only due once both of you have answered.
What you get
You each answer alone
44 questions on your own phone. Your partner never sees what you said.
One report, both sides
Your scores next to theirs, so you can finally see the same picture at the same time.
One conversation to have
Your widest gaps, what they mean, and one talk to have this week without it turning into the usual fight.
How it works
- Step 1
You answer, on your own
44 questions, about 10 minutes. No one is watching over your shoulder, and that's the point.
- Step 2
They get their own private link
Emailed straight to them, or you send it yourself. They answer separately, with no sight of your answers.
- Step 3
Pay only when both sides are in
Once both of you have answered, USD 49 unlocks the full joint report. Nothing upfront, and nothing lost if one side doesn't finish.
What lands in your inbox
- Your attachment pairing, named and explained in plain language, with what it does under stress.
- A five-dimension scorecard with both of your scores next to each other, and the gap between them.
- Your three widest gaps, with the specific items that produced them and what to actually do about each.
- An expectations table for money, family involvement, children, faith, where you live, roles at home and careers, marked aligned, negotiable, or in conflict.
- The three things you already agree on more strongly than you realise.
- One structured conversation to have this week, with guardrails so it doesn't turn into the same fight.
- A readiness paragraph you can genuinely act on, including if the honest answer is 'not yet'.
What the 44 questions cover
Attachment items are drawn from the ECR-R tradition; the rest are modelled on established relationship-satisfaction and conflict research. Two attachment subscales, plus five scored dimensions:
Communication and repair
Whether hard things get said, heard, and put back together afterwards.
Trust and security
Reliability, transparency, and the absence of quiet suspicion.
Closeness and affection
Emotional and physical warmth, and how freely it is offered.
Conflict handling
What each of you does when the temperature rises.
Shared direction
Money, family, children, faith, place, roles and career - the practical life you are agreeing to.
Attachment pairing
Anxiety and avoidance for each of you, and the part that matters most: what the combination of the two of you tends to produce in a hard moment.
Will my partner see my answers?
No. Neither of you ever sees the other's raw answers. Nothing is posted, nothing is shared, and there is no public profile. If you want to show a summary to family or a matchmaker, there's an optional link that carries bands only, and it only exists while both of you keep it switched on.
What they do see
- Both sets of scores, side by side
- The gaps between you, and what they mean
- The same readings and next steps you get
What they never see
- Your answer to any single question
- A transcript of what you said about them
- Anything you typed that you later changed
Start the marriage compatibility test
Start free, pay only when both of you have answered
You answer first, then the other person gets a private link by email. Neither of you sees the other's answers - only the joint report. USD 49 unlocks the report once both sides are in.
You can skip this and send the private link yourself after you answer.
USD 49 unlocks the joint report once both partners have answered. Includes a USD 15 credit toward a couples or pre-marital session.
Take this into a pre-marital session
Pre-marital work is two or three structured sessions, not therapy for a problem - you bring this report and work through the areas it flags before they become married life. The report carries a USD 15 credit toward it, so nothing here is money spent twice.
See session optionsQuestions couples ask
Does my partner see my answers?
No. Each of you answers privately. The joint report shows scores, gaps and readings for both sides - never the raw answers either of you gave.
Do we have to pay before we answer?
No. You answer first, then your partner answers, and USD 49 is only due once both sides are in. If one side never answers, you pay nothing.
Do we both have to pay?
No. One payment of USD 49 covers both partners and the joint report.
How long does it take?
About 10 minutes each. There are 44 statements, answered on a five-point agree-to-disagree scale.
What if my partner never fills it in?
You pay nothing, and you can still request an individual read of your own side after the waiting period passes.
Can this be used for an arranged-marriage introduction?
Yes - that's exactly what the marriage compatibility test is designed for. Both people answer before or during the introduction stage, and the report lays out expectations on money, family involvement, children, faith, location, roles and career as aligned, negotiable or in conflict. There is an optional bands-only summary you can both agree to share with family or a matchmaker.
Is it a diagnosis?
No. It is an educational relationship assessment and does not diagnose any condition.
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Couples Relationship Test
For two people already together, who want to see where they actually stand.
This assessment is educational. It is not a diagnosis, not couples therapy, and not suitable as a safety assessment. If there is violence, coercion or fear in the relationship, please contact local support services rather than starting here.