What we work on · Boundaries with family
Therapy for setting boundaries in an Indian family
In a lot of Indian families there is no clear line between inner circle and outer circle. A cousin's wife knows your salary, an aunt has an opinion on your pregnancy, a group chat decides how your wedding is run, and saying no to any of it feels like an insult to people who love you.
Boundaries advice written elsewhere assumes you can simply state a limit and move on. Here, the same sentence can be read as disrespect. So the work is not learning to say no. It is finding the version of no that your family can survive and you can hold.
Komel Kaur
Psychotherapist + Executive Coach
M.A. Psychology
CBT and DBT trained psychotherapist
5 languages
English, Hindi, Punjabi, Urdu, Kashmiri
60-minute sessions
Online video, times shown on your own clock
No payment to request
Ask for a time first, pay once it is confirmed
Reviewed by Komel Kaur, psychotherapist and executive coach, M.A. Psychology
Last reviewed 20 August 2026
What this often looks like
- ·Family members knowing details of your money, marriage or health that you never chose to share
- ·Explaining your decisions to people who were never involved in them
- ·Saying yes to visits, loans and favours you cannot afford
- ·Guilt for hours after any small refusal
- ·Your partner and your family pulling you in opposite directions
- ·No space in your week that belongs only to you
What we actually do in sessions
- ·We map your actual circles: who genuinely belongs in a decision and who has simply always been included.
- ·We decide what information is yours, what is your marriage's, and what is shared.
- ·We write the specific sentences for the phone call, the group chat, the visit.
- ·We prepare for the reaction, because the first no is usually tested.
- ·We work on the guilt afterwards, which is the part that makes most people fold.
- ·Nobody is cut off unless you decide that yourself. The aim is a workable relationship, not distance.
Format
Online video
Private and confidential
Sessions in
English, Hindi, Punjabi, Urdu
Where clients are
Gulf, UK, Europe, North America, Australia, India
Want a starting point before you talk to anyone?
Common questions
Will therapy push me to go no contact?
No. For most people the goal is a relationship that continues without costing them their health or their marriage. Distance is one option among several, not the recommendation.
How do I set a boundary without being called disrespectful?
Usually by changing the delivery, not the limit. Warmth, brevity, and no long justification travel much better in Indian families than a well-argued case.
My partner and my parents want different things. Who do I choose?
That framing is the trap. Sessions work on agreeing a line as a couple first, so neither of you is negotiating alone with the other's family.
Do we need to do this as a couple?
Not necessarily. Most people start alone, and one person changing how they respond usually shifts the pattern. Couples sessions can follow.
Ready when you are
Pick a session and a time in your own timezone, then send the request. Nothing is paid until Komel confirms.
Other things people bring here
Online therapy by country
How it works
Three steps, about five minutes.
No waiting list, no phone tag, no chasing a reply. You can have a time requested before you close this page, and nothing is paid until it is confirmed.
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Sessions and pricing
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Intro consultation
30 minutes
USD 35
One-off, no commitment
A short first conversation to see if we're a fit.
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Full session
60 minutes
USD 70USD 49
New client offerOne-off, no commitment
A complete therapy hour, one to one.
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60 minutes
USD 49per session
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Five hours of real work at the lower rate the whole way through.
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Couples session
60 minutes, for two
USD 120USD 99
New client offerOne-off, no commitment
One hour with both partners on the same video call.
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From the practice
What Komel writes about, week to week.
When this is not the right fit
Komel is a psychotherapist and executive coach based in the UAE, working online worldwide. Sessions are private and self-funded, and cannot be claimed on local insurance or used for legal, medical or workplace reports. She does not prescribe or manage medication.
This is not an emergency service. If you are in immediate danger, use a local crisis line rather than a booking request. Her credentials and training and the full scope of practice are published.